The three most powerful words in any language are “I love you.” What the individual implies who is speaking these words is the key to understanding the words of love. One person may say, “I love you,” using the word, “Eros” which is centered around personal pleasure. Another may use the word, “Philia” which is used to mean brotherly love. Then one may use the word, “Agape” to emphasize the love of God for man and of man for God. If “Agape” love is missing, the marriage will have the frame without the foundation.
When we lived in Florida one of the orange juice companies had a slogan which said, “A day without orange juice is like a day without sunshine.” In a marriage, a day without saying “I love you” to your spouse is also like a day without sunshine. We say it with an exclamation point, not a question mark! Love is a choice.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage because there are no perfect husbands and wives. However, in a Christian marriage the spiritual health of the marriage is directly proportional to the husband’s and wife’s love for God and His Son Jesus. Can you have a great marriage without knowing Jesus? Absolutely. Can you know the depth of true love and have the best marriage possible without knowing Jesus? Absolutely not.
After reading together Prov. 5:19c and Phil. 1:6, discuss with your spouse the meaning of the three words mentioned above which describe love. In what ways has Agape love been shown in your marriage? Make a vow to share every day those three powerful words — “I love you!”
This series of devotions relating to marriage are taken from “44 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage” by evangelist and pastor Jerry Drace.