Lips of praise are the antidote for the lips of poison. Fault finding is not a sign of strength, but a display of weakness. A husband or wife who is constantly pointing out the faults in their spouse does so because of the unwillingness to face the faults in their own life. It is always easier to criticize others than correct the imperfections in your own character. The harsh tongue reveals a blackened heart. He who is the first to condemn is often the last to forgive.
The Bible tells us that as a little rudder can turn a great ship, so a little tongue can either bless or curse. Whoever said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me,” didn’t understand the power of the spoken word. Cruel words are sharper than razors and the damage they do leave scars below the surface.
Before marriage you could not say enough kind things to your future spouse, so why change the course of the ship after marriage? You have heard the expression, “I love you warts and all.” There is much wisdom is this old proverb. Once you board the ship of marriage there is no reason to abandon her or run her aground.
After reading together Eccl. 9:9 and Rom. 12:10, make a list of the top ten things you like most about your spouse. Wrap these in a box like a present and give it to him or her just before you go to bed tonight. It’s a great way to end a day and start the next.
This series of devotions relating to marriage are taken from “44 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage” by evangelist and pastor Jerry Drace.