Husbands are visual. Wives are emotive. Husbands are instantaneous. Wives are reflective. Husbands gulp. Wives sip. Husbands are Stone Age. Wives are Renaissance. Any way you cut it, there is a difference between husbands and wives. Thank the Lord for that.
However, both husbands and wives are sexual in nature. It is this area of married life where you either share the deepest form of communication on a mutually enjoyable level or find that what is pleasurable for one maybe embarrassing for the other.
The act of sexual intimacy was designed by God to be one of the greatest pleasures a human can experience. Intimacy is like an equilateral triangle. Its three sides are sexual, sensual, and spiritual. Sexual is the physical side. Sensual is the emotional side. Spiritual is the foundational side. If all three sides are not in proportion to each other, then the intimate part of the marriage becomes one sided and out of balance. If you wish to become a great lover to your spouse then an understanding of the three sides of intimacy is vital.
By the way, a “scientific survey” for husbands found out that if a husband is balding in front this proves he is a great lover. If he is balding in back he is a great thinker. If he is balding all over he just thinks he is a great lover.
One of the most significant ways a married couple can honor God is to honor their vows. Great sex in a marriage requires openness, honesty, and trust without violating either God’s laws or your spouse.
After reading together Song of Sol. 1:2; 7:1, and 1 Cor. 7:2-3, discuss the triangle model of intimacy with your spouse. Are there any adjustments which need to be made? Share these with each other.
This series of devotions relating to marriage are taken from “44 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage” by evangelist and pastor Jerry Drace.