Anger doesn’t solve anything and it builds nothing, but can destroy everything.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” – James 1:19-20
“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” – Proverbs 29:11
Anger is an emotion that we all deal with one way or another. Though it is not anger that gets us in trouble, it is how we handle anger. Recently we’ve seen people handle anger through violence or disrespect, but even in doing so it leaves us with a void. Handling things negatively never makes us feel better especially if we love like Christ said we should.
In my life, I have been told that I was too nice because on a scale of 1-10 my anger level rests at 2 where many people’s level may rest at a 6 or 7. I choose to not allow the anxiety and stress to cloud my thinking and control my actions. If we took the time to put ourselves in the other person’s situation, would we still act the same way, or would we be more understanding and compassionate?
I choose to deal with anger the way that I handle babies. Think about it, do you get angry at a baby for yelling (crying) or using the bathroom on themselves No you don’t. You understand that it’s a baby, and they don’t know any better. They are trying to do the best with what they know. Well, if we look at people like babies in certain situations, can we really get mad at them? No. So, I believe that naive love, forgiveness, and understanding is what God wants us to give everyone. Love people by understanding this, and sometimes that takes growth and time.
Jean Ward serves as pastor of East Atlanta Church.